Second, my family is going through some pretty dark and trying months. I will expand upon this at a later time - when it isn't almost 1:00 in the morning (I know, I know, mom, I'm going to bed right after this!!) Anyway, we just had our 3rd wedding anniversary and it was a little overshadowed by the situation we are currently going through. However, I feel this is perhaps the most, if not one of most important trials of my life. One with immeasurable consequenses for my husband, our children and all of our family and even friends. So tonight I wanted to spend a few minutes searching online and see what I could find that might help me be the wife God calls me to be each and every day, regardless of what that day may bring.
While the information I found does not pertain to the specific situation I mentioned that our family currently faces I do believe it's principles (rooted in the Scriptures - which I find always helps) are not only timeless but often forgotten or simply ignored in our busy lives (me included!!!).
And to my precious single friends (I'm sure you won't but trust me and enjoy it because you will never have this time again); to you I will be frank and say that I think even you will find it worth reading. In my short time (however, Marty and I agree that we have really been married in dog years - really) as a wife I realized that I have been in training for my wifely habits, attitudes, etc. all my life. Perhaps reading some of these can give you an idea for what you can be doing to help prepare you to be the wife your husband and family need, the wife God calls you to be. Or if you never get married, the women and mentor you will be to those God places in your life.
This is only one section but I encourage you to take some time and eventually check them all out. I will to.
Godly Wife: Are You Drawing Him to You with Your Speech? By MInTheGap on Jan 18, 2007 in Husbands and Wives and Noteworthy
One of the greatest tools that we have to effect the way others feel is our tongue. Many a leader has attributed his ability to weather the toughest times in his life because of people willing to give encouraging words.
The Bible tells us that we are to be building one another up with our words– strengthening each other, bringing people to a closer relationship with Christ. As one flesh before God, this command is magnified in that we should be ones that draw each other with our speech.
It’s no secret that women talk more then men, and so it shouldn’t come as a surprise that the Bible has more to say about how women use their tongue in marriage than men.
Godly Wife, how do you use your tongue? Do you use it to attract or to repel? Let’s look at some passages about both:
Come, my beloved, let us go forth into the field; let us lodge in the villages. - Song of Solomon 7:11
A virtuous woman is a crown to her husband: but she that maketh ashamed is as rottenness in his bones. - Proverbs 12:4
Every wise woman buildeth her house: but the foolish plucketh it down with her hands. - Proverbs 14:1
A foolish son is the calamity of his father: and the contentions of a wife are a continual dropping. - Proverbs 19:13
A continual dropping in a very rainy day and a contentious woman are alike. - Proverbs 27:15
What is the goal of how you speak to your husband? Is it to make him more attracted with you or is it to somehow boost yourself. How does your husband react to having conversation with you? Does it seem that he wants to spend more time with you, wants to be more intimate with you, or does he tend to want to spend more time away.
Men are not as simple as some women think that they are– they take a lot more verbal abuse than you think because they internalize it. Just think of the relationship you could have if you start or continue to use words that draw each other closer!
Question Idea taken from Questions for a Godly Wife
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